A Message on Grief

The darker the night, the brighter the stars
The deeper the grief, the closer is God

 

Grief is never expected and is never, ever easy. I would know, because I've dealt with a lot of it. Today, too many people I know are grieving. We're aching. Searching for answers. Searching for peace. A triple homicide occurred in my hometown of Jupiter, Florida last night, and I'm broken from 600 miles away. Although this blog is meant to be primarily for my photography ventures, it is not without a personal touch. And boy, if this isn't personal to me...

Things like this don't happen in my cute little seaside town I call home, let alone to people I know. I've already been going through a lot emotionally as of late, and I'm supposed to be spending today working on school assignments and studying for my first Organic Chemistry II exam tomorrow (ewwwww), but this has broken me. Shattered my heart. It's always refreshing nowadays to see your Facebook feed not be flooded with political posts and people bashing each other for a difference of opinions, but not like this. Political memes replaced with touching tributes, beautiful pictures of friends enjoying life, and utter grief. Life should not be like this.

A dagger right in the heart. That's what today feels like.

And it will probably feel the same tomorrow. And the next day. And the next.

Though we have not heard from the families of the victims yet, I cannot begin to imagine their pain. Yet in the midst of this tragedy, it's beautiful to see the impact these people had on so many lives. To know that they were loved and admired by many is so touching. But the loss still hurts. 

Both grief and mourning are completely natural, completely necessary parts of life and parts of the healing process. Of course, it is not easy. In fact it is downright awful and it hurts. It hits deep. If you don't face your grief, your wounds won't quite heal the same. Of course, they may never heal completely. Confronting painful emotions is never easy, but it's worse to avoid them altogether. Losing someone in your life when they're sick or dying and is somewhat anticipated is hard enough, but to lose people you know to careless acts of violence like this shatters us in the most hurtful of ways.

Of course this is all very new and very raw right now. And over time the pain will subside, although it may never truly go away entirely. 

To all of my Jupiter friends, I love you dearly. I know we are all hurting right now. And it is in this now where we must come together to support and grieve with one another. It is okay to spend some time alone, as I have been all day today, but isolation is not a healthy way to deal with grief in the long run. Know that others are in that same state of grief with you. When I heard of the news, I contacted one of my very good friends, a minister, who has always been there for me in the midst of my grief periods. She has always been a shining light in my darkest days. She may not be from our hometown but it does't matter in the slightest. I asked her to pray for all of us and even in that smallest of gestures, I find hope. 

To Bradi, Kelli, and Sean, we all love you very, very, very much. May you be our newest guardian angels in the sky.

 

The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
Psalm 34:18